Written by: Danielle Nutter
Acceptance
The divine nature in all of us yearns for love and affection. As a result, we seek out others to latch on to satisfy our inner desires. But when the connections we create end, sometimes, one of us is not ready to be set free. While one escapes, the other experiences a broken heart. After all, a broken heart isn’t always a bad thing. It can be the passage to self-discovery and spiritual connectedness.
My Experience With Acceptance
I was so gullible. My ex used to make promises and did not follow through with them. I wanted to believe her so badly, but deep down, I knew better. When we broke up, she told me she would return to me in five years – new and improved! Her words nestled and burrowed in my head, and I waited for her to re-enter my life as she promised. Whenever I saw something that reminded me of her, I automatically thought the universe was validating that she was coming back. She did not. So, I finally had to come to terms with my obsession to be with her and let the fantasy of who I wanted us to be fade away.
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In the back of my mind, I knew the day would come when I would have to learn how to live unattached. After all the running around to distract myself, I became exhausted. I dedicated my time to facing my fears and finally acknowledging that grieving my ex would be a process I would not complete in just a few weeks. Therefore, I accepted my heartache and let the tears flow whenever I thought of her. Research says crying is the best way to cleanse the soul. I didn’t want another band-aid, a new relationship, or medication to cover up the pain. Like a big girl, I admitted that it was time to get to the bottom of my depression. In turn, I began to do all the healing practices I mentioned in the previous articles to feel better. Some days, the methods worked, while on others, I felt horrible. Eventually, I replaced the gorge in my heart with God’s love and found ways to inspire others to do the same.
HEAL’N TEES
Stage 7: Acceptance
After the breakup, you may learn to:
- Let go of past hope and forgive your ex for hurting you.
- Express your thoughts and open your heart without feeling embarrassed or scared.
- Be resilient and confident that you can bounce back from emotional trauma.
- Engage in self-care and prioritize your inner peace over everything else!
Heal’n Practices
Ways to develop your inner being:
1. Practice forgiveness. Release all emotions tied to the one that hurt you. Once the scars have dissolved, shift your focus to how you willingly gave your power away to your ex through love and
learn to love again without totally giving up your autonomy.
2. Refrain from judgment. Develop an understanding of others and consider ‘why’ they chose specific actions without taking their choices personally.
3. Lie in the glory of your restored soul. Take note of God’s grace that transformed your doubt into faith and anger into gratitude. Pay attention to the inner essence you have awakened and use it to spread the word of Jesus Christ!
Remember For Your Heal’n
Only a select few of us meet early and stay together until the end. The rest of us go through a series of gains and losses. When you learn to accept that relationships are different roads of teaching on your journey, you will begin to understand that depression is holding on and sadness is letting go.
Once you discover your authentic self, you will develop a different mindset and understand why your heart had to be broken wide open and beautifully put back together by God. Through that process, you learn to first love yourself and then others. The way to love others is to be kind and ‘gift away’ your story to lead them to the gateway of self-healing.