Written by: Danielle Nutter
Character Crises
It takes a lot of courage to be open, honest and genuine. Sadly, many of us are great actors who disguise our imperfections and only allow others to see the version of ourselves that we would like to be. What is the harm in being true and transparent? Is there a way to accept your faults and maintain self-worth?
My Battle With Character Crises
I am just as guilty as the next person for covering up and keeping the not-so-pleasant things about myself a secret. When I got caught being untruthful, I apologized for my dishonesty, but does apologizing take the hurt away or excuse my mistake? I finally reached a point where I became tired of bringing sadness to others and myself. I truly wanted to become a better person. If I could love someone else and their flaws, then I figured I could love myself with my flaws.
After I made an honest list of all my imperfections, as stated in Step #4, I was the most unsettled with the following personal flaw:
- I attach to others for love and acceptance. I choose to give love to someone else rather than love myself.
Step 5: Admit to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
HEAL’N TEES
Heal’n My Character Crises
After the breakup, I noticed I was in my early forties and still doing things as I did in my twenties. Somehow, my main focus in life became to connect with my special someone. I found myself doing crazy things to stay attached. It was time to change.
To begin, I hired a therapist to help me dig deep within myself to figure out why I held onto a dead-end dependency for so long. It amazed me how easy it was to reveal my deepest emotions to my therapist. She knew more about me than any of my exes. Even though exposing my inner nature made me feel embarrassed and uncomfortable, it also felt liberating to rid my mind of my concealed struggles.
Remember For Your Heal’n
At some point in our lives, we will need help to recover from trauma. We cannot heal alone. Confession can be scary, but it is necessary. To transform, we must admit our wrongdoings:
- To God so we can build a relationship with our higher power, awaken spiritually, and carry over our devotion into our other relationships.
- To ourselves so we can focus on what needs to be fixed and reduce the tension of holding onto the things that eat away at us.
- To another human being you trust and who may offer suggestions and encouraging feedback.
Your Two Cents…
Is there at least one person on this earth that knows EVERYTHING about you? Leave your comment below.